The Truth About Defining Your Personal Style

Whenever the topic of personal style comes up in conversation amongst clients, friends, or even random strangers on the street I always get this feeling that they view “having a sense of personal style” as some sort of magical state of being that is only attainable by some unknown sorcery. I’ve literally had someone tell me the way I put clothes together is like magic – I can assure you, as I did them, it’s really not!

Having personal style is not magic. Nor is it having designer clothing or being on top of the latest trends. It’s not having an eye for vintage finds or a good handle on DIY.

Honestly, it only comes down to two parts that define a sense of style – one part self-knowledge and one part self-confidence.

Yup, that’s it. When it comes to your sense of style all you really need is to be knowledgeable about yourself and be confident in your style decisions. In other words, style is all about your attitude. A quote I found from an article in Psychology Today really hits the nail on the head:

“{Style} is a life-affirming expression of your character and spirit, a conviction that you are worth knowing, worth looking at and can present yourself well. It is knowing your strengths and weaknesses so that you can accentuate your strengths, not hide real or imagined shortcomings.”

Style should be a celebration of individuality and how different we all are. Being knowledgeable about your personality and attitude towards life will forever be linked to how you express yourself physically, or in other words – how you dress.

I’ve said this time and again, but I truly believe style is one of our most inherent means of self-expression as it is an outside representation of how we feel on the inside. Think about it, how many times do we say to ourselves “I’m feeling/I want to feel {insert feeling/emotion here} so I’m going to wear {insert clothing item here}”, I don’t know about you all, but this is a daily thought process for me.

Many people confuse and criticize having style as being trendy or materialistic. However that is often due to mistaking style for fashion. Fashion is clothes, and trends, and big marketing campaigns meant to entice us, as consumers, to buy, buy, buy! Style, however, is in the wearer and their individual personality, beliefs, and attitude towards life which is then expressed through the clothes they wear. As designer Yves Saint Laurent stated:

“Fashion fades but style is eternal.”


So how can you start defining your personal style today? Simply by being aware and having confidence in who you are and what you’d like to represent to the world. At the end of the day, your sense of style is really self-knowledge thoughtfully applied to the way you dress and having the self-confidence to do so.

Want a more in-depth look at how to build that knowledge and confidence? As always, I’m here to help so don’t hesitate to shoot me an email with any questions you may have.

Happy Monday & thanks for reading!



5 Responses to The Truth About Defining Your Personal Style

  1. I like your sense of style 😀 and having your own personal sense of style is very important :)